Photography by Jamie Heslop Photography
Meet Darcee. She is Beauty Revived.
Darcee’s story started 8 years ago with fertility treatments, and transformed to adoption paperwork. After she and her husband were approved they were quickly chosen by a birth mother. At the hospital they heard his first cry, helped with his first bath, and stamped his footprints on their hands. When it came time to sign the paperwork, the birth mother was considering parenting. Darcee and her husband chose to be temporary foster parents while the birth mother made her decision. They wanted to love and care for this baby however they could. They loved and parented him for three days. A few months later they were selected by another birth mother. After anticipating the birth for four months, they received a call before the due date saying the mother decided to parent.
Heartbroken again, Darcee and her husband decided to take a break from trying to adopt, yet were called a few weeks later saying they’d been selected to adopt a four day old girl who’d been born 10 weeks premature. Darcee recalls, “I’ll never forget the first time I held her in the NICU. She looked at me and smiled like she knew her mom was finally there and I’d never felt so much love in my life.”
18 months later, they began the adoption process again. After being approved they met with a birth mother and an undeniable connection was felt by all. The birth mother delivered a healthy baby girl and, with the strength of God and her family, relinquished her rights. Darcee said, “I remember at one point praying and pleading for one child. Now we were blessed with 2 perfect children and my heart was overflowing.”
18 months later Darcee and her husband felt an urgency to adopt again. Hours after approval they were contacted by a birth mother and chosen to adopt her baby girl. They found themselves in a familiar situation when the birth mother decided not to relinquish her rights. “I knew this had to be extremely difficult for (her), and we wanted to support her in whatever her decision was” stated Darcee. The hospital discharged the mother with a carseat and a few supplies. Darcee called the next morning to ensure they were were alright. The birth mother told her she’d made a mistake, the baby belonged with Darcee. She relinquished her rights and the baby was brought to Darcee. Soon after, the birth mother contacted the birth father who’d previously not wanted to be involved, and told him how to stop the adoption. Long story short, they cared for this baby for six weeks before returning her to her birth mother. Darcee said, “I’m very grateful for this experience that helped me have greater sympathy and understanding for what a birth mother experiences when she places a baby. I’ll never know, or pretend to know, what it’s like to carry a baby for nine months, then place that child for adoption, but I do know what it’s like to pray and prepare for a baby and have her come into (my) home for six weeks, then have the strength to let her go.” During this difficult time Darcee had impressions there was another baby for them, and within a week was contacted by a birth mother who chose them to adopt her baby. They were blessed with a baby boy they love and adore.
In February 2016 they started the adoption process again and had five failed adoptions in five months. Two birth mothers decided to parent before their babies were born, two decided to parent after their babies were born, and twin girls they were hoping to adopt both passed away. That October Darcee’s family was chosen to adopt 5 month old twins. Through many miracles and the faith and persistence of Darcee’s family, the birth mother, and many others, they were able to adopt their twins and bring them home after a four month struggle.
Darcee illustrates such love, service, and sacrifice through each circumstance she faces. When reflecting on her adoption journey she said, “I’ve had the opportunity to meet and love over 20 birth mothers in a unique situation where they were considering placing their baby for adoption, and we were hoping to adopt. I learned early in our adoption journey that I had no control over what the birth mother decided to do, but I could love them. Whether they decided to place their baby for adoption or parent, I had the opportunity to love them and help them see how much worth they had. I feel so privileged that some of these women who decided to parent their baby still want to keep in touch with me and show me pictures of their babies. I’m just grateful they felt loved.”